The G-spot. We’ve all heard of it, but not all of us have experienced the pleasure for ourselves of what it means to achieve an orgasm through G-spot stimulation (yes, it can happen!).
While not all women find G-spot stimulation enjoyable, for many ladies, it’s so arousing they can experience especially intense orgasms. (And that’s something no one wants to miss!). If you want in on the action, keep reading for your road map to having fun with this special spot.
Discover the Pleasure Zone
The G-spot is a small, spongy area that’s part of the paraurethral gland (the same tissue that, in men, forms the prostate). If you want to achieve an orgasm courtesy of the G-spot, first, you should make sure you’re making the right moves to hit the spot (literally).
The G-spot is located just a few inches inside the vagina on the front wall (the same side as the belly button). It’s easy to find when you insert two fingers into the vagina facing upward and make a “come here” motion (using firm, but gentle pressure). It’s notable for having a slightly different texture than the surrounding vaginal tissue.
Find Your Rhythm
Just like other orgasms, rhythm and intensity are everything. Since every woman’s preferences are different, experiment to find the sensations you like the most. You may love a fluttering caress on your G-spot, while other women need intense vibrations to send them over the edge.
To figure out what works for you, start your G-spot adventure alone. After all, if you can’t figure out the ins-and-outs of your own body, how can you expect it of someone else? Starting alone also removes pressure to perform or respond in a certain way. You can use your fingers, or try a vibrator with a curved tip designed to target this special spot. When exploring your G-spot, just make sure to relax and use plenty of lubrication! Forget distractions, and take time to enjoy getting to know your body and letting it take you where it wants to go.
After some one-on-one with your G-spot, then you’re ready to try it out with a partner you trust. Remember, communication is key! Make sure to let your partner know how different movements and intensities make you feel. The more open you are, the more likely you are to make an intense orgasm brought on by the G-spot a repeat performance.
Whether alone or with a partner, if you’re new to the world of G-spot play you may feel some pressure on your bladder as you work the spot. Don’t worry—you’re not about to have an accident. In fact, it’s a sign that things are going just right.
Don’t Forget Other Erogenous Zones
You can’t ignore the forest for the G-spot, ladies! A laser focus on the G-spot probably won’t lead to anything other than frustration. In fact, many women report the best G-spot experiences come from 30-second intervals where the special spot gets brief breaks while other areas (the girls, your clitoris, the side of your neck) get some lovin’. Try alternating G-spot stimulation with special areas that you know get you going.
Foreplay is also an important step to achieving a G-spot orgasm, or any orgasm for that matter. Like other erogenous tissue (the penis, the clitoris … even nipples!), arousal increases blood flow to the G-spot, leading to swelling and increased sensitivity. You’re also more likely to have success with G-spot stimulation if you’ve already had an orgasm (or two) in the same session. So here’s your excuse (as if you needed one) to go big or go home!
For an intensely pleasurable experience, stimulating the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time will give you double the pleasure, double the fun! If you have a partner, they can give the clitoris some oral or manual love while using a free hand to apply rhythmic pressure to the G-spot. If you’re alone, the same result can be achieved with one hand massaging the clitoris while the other caresses the G-spot. This two-for-one approach will give you a better chance of going over the edge, so don’t be surprised when you throw back your head in pure bliss!
Keep Your Body Involved
Because the G-spot is located so close to the bladder and some major muscles, the experience can be helped along by getting your abdominal muscles in on the action. Many women say that tightening the stomach muscles intensifies pleasure (bonus: you get a great ab workout!).
Like any other muscle, you can also work out the muscles in the vagina for an improved experience. This not only makes an orgasm more likely, but it tightens the tissue lining in the vagina. For centuries, Ben Wa Balls have been used as an effective tool to help exercise vaginal muscles, but Kegal exercises can achieve a similar result without equipment.
Finding the right position can make a big difference, too. Don’t be afraid to try it out on your back, your stomach, or on your side. Each woman’s body is different, and being open to experimentation could be the key to success.
Don’t Give Up
Don’t be discouraged or give up if you can’t achieve a G-spot orgasm the first time. Keep trying, take your time, and enjoy the process! Remember that the purpose of G-spot play, like any type of sexual activity, is to have a good time—so don’t get so focused on the destination that you forget to appreciate the journey! (Especially when the journey is as much fun as this!)